Every child has their own unique personality and internal dialogue (thought patterns and perception of where they fit in the world) that governs self-confidence, self-love, methods to deal with stress and triggers which bring about anxiousness or self-doubts.
As a parent you can assist them to embrace their individuality and help your child move mountains by following their hearts desires whilst finding methods to express their emotions in the most relaxed or beneficial ways possible.
Being a parent myself to a very sensitive child combined with years of study including childcare and a teachers degree, having intuitive abilities, psychic gifts and experience working with many children in various settings I can read into kids and help on deep levels. You can do this too with your child.
My journey often included children that displayed severe behavioural challenges where many gave up on ways to assist them. This has always been one of the most rewarding things I have done and I want to share some methods to assist you or someone you may know.
I was specialising in anxiety behaviours, sensory issues, special needs and helping kids express themselves in their own way to evolve into the happy and settled individuals they are. The trick is to see how your child views the world and assess how they can express needs in life in any situation.
Below are some methods that I use and would like to share;
1. The first step is to assess how your child learns. Are they a visual learner or auditory? That way you can implement techniques at home which are tailored to how your child perceives and processes any given scenario.
a) A visual learner will physically need to touch items such as watching an iPad or hold toys in their hands when they are focusing on a task.
You will find that there is little eye contact as they are intently watching the TV or book that one hand is touching at that time.
These children are highly sensitive to emotions and when told to do a task quickly there often is a bit of restraint on their end. Routine and warning of the next task five minutes later provides comfort.
b) An auditory learner will pick up on what you are teaching by hearing. You can explain verbally or play music to get this information to gel into your child's mind.
At times when background music or noise is on it can become difficult for your child to narrow what you are saying. When this happens eliminate other noise and that will make a difference.
2. Sit down and let your child know that this is a safe space to say any topic. Have handy a glitter egg timer, ornament or even a stuffed toy. Choose something that your child will enjoy holding.
They are allowed to talk without judgement or consequences during this conversation. Then it is your turn as both parties do not talk over each other. This with practice is very enlightening. It also allows your child to work through any emotions of trying to hide how they feel and helps identify underlying emotions which you can then support with ideas for an action plan.
3. Sit back to back in a chair. You are connecting into each others energy fields. Each person says three things that they like about the other. As your child grows just follow what you feel is more age appropriate.
Then both say a memory that you shared and how it made you feel. After this both mention three things you would like each other to change or work on.
At the end of this say to each other, I love you and am here to support you in any way I can.
4. Writing post it notes on the fridge with one new love declaration each day helps too. When the children are young you can read it out to them. This is fun to put it up with a fun fridge magnet.
5. As a parent or caregiver sit in a quiet space and write a recent scenario that the child has displayed behaviour which has given you emotions that include happiness or concern.
Write a list of seven behavioural traits about this scenario they displayed. Focus on any parts which occur frequently and see if you can find a correlation to your child's anxiousness, shutting down or acting out behaviour.
Then make an action plan drawing a brick will. The middle brick is the name of your child. The rows surrounding it range from the most important issues right through to the end rows with suggestions that you can try for the next two weeks to help him or her with these traits.
Thank you for reading this blog and I hope it has helped you tonight towards connecting in further with your beautiful child.